The Marriage Covenant
What we call ‘marriage vows’ is really a ‘marriage covenant’, and a covenant of any kind is a binding legal contract between two or more people in which there is a blessing for keeping it, and a penality imposed for breaking it. The Marriage Covenant was instituted by the Lord God back in the Garden of Eden with God Himself conducting the ceremonial act for Adam and Eve. You may be thinking, “I don’t remember reading that in scripture.” But think about it. There was only Adam; then there was Adam and Eve. When God created Adam, he was both male and female. Adam was made in the image of God in that Adam was a spirit being but lived in a fleshly body suitable for living in the earth’s environment, and the spirit in Adam was both male and female until God separated them after Adam saw he had no physical mate like the animals in the garden. But God had already blessed them, and ordained them to be fruitful (produce children) and mulitply. [Genesis 1:27-28] So God separated the male and female parts of Adam’s spirit, the one from the other. Adam was created from the dust of the earth, but Eve was taken from Adam’s side. And with the rib God removed from Adam’s side, He made Eve a living being separate from Adam. But when Adam and Eve consumated their individual lives sexually they were bound together once again spiritually and became one in spirit, thus completing or making whole the other person. They had two individual bodies, but they were one in spirit, or the two were once again connected and united as one single spirit. [Gen 2:24] This clinging or coming together was the initial marriage act as ordained, conducted, and blessed by God. [Genesis 2:8-25] Adam and Eve were bound together not only by their sexual act, but by blood. First, Adam’s blood in the creation of Eve, and Eve when their marriage was consumated sexually.
I know many people don’t understand how this covenant principle pertains to marriage today because not many women are virgins when they marry and many of them have had multiple sex partners before marriage. That’s why the spirit within them becomes confused and has a hard time recognizing their male half when he appears on the scene. Every male of us has a female spiritual counterpart in this world that fits our spirit like the two halves of a heart necklace. Once the male spirit finds its female counterpart their marriages last for life. Those men who marry but never find their female counterpart, their spirits are at war with one another continually because the two spirit don’t fit together, and their marriages usually ends in divorce and many times they will divorce more than once. It’s like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. The two spirits don’t fit together so one is always trying to gain dominance over the other. And more often than not there are children born to these unions who grow up just as confused and take on the attributes of the dominating spirit in their family.
At one time purity was honored and the man and woman shed the blood of their newly formed marriage covenant on their wedding night thus making their covenant binding. If the woman wasn’t a virgin who could complete the blood portion of their marriage covenant or vows as we call them today; the man was entitled to divorce her, and in some societies the husband could have her stoned to death because of her inability to fulfill the blood requirement of their marriage covenant. Jesus said in Matthew 5:31-32, “Furthermore it has been said, whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce. But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery, and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.“ In these two scriptures Jesus is referring to marriage from the standpoint of a covenant relationship since He is talking to people of the Abrahamic Covenant. Under the Abrahamic Covenant the males were circumcised when they reached a certain age. Circumcision was bloody but necessary because the males were committed unto God by blood on that day and God gave to man a woman who in turn shed her blood of the marriage covenant on her marriage night, thus fulfilling the blood covenant requirements of both the husband and wife. That is why Jesus said the only acceptable reason for revoking a marital relationship is when one or the other parties commits an unpardonable atrocity against the other party. In the case of marriage, adultery with another person is the only acceptable grounds for divorce. Jesus did not say you had to divorce your mate for sexual immorality; He said, it was acceptable grounds for divorce. Merely getting rid of our wife because we tire of them is not sufficient grounds in the kingdom of heaven to break a blood covenant. Therefore anyone who marries a woman given an illegal divorce is party to adultery because the person who issued the illegal divorce decree has not yet died; thus if the woman remarries while she is still in a legally binding blood covenant relationship with her first husband, even though, he, or the court system might have given her a written decree of divorcement, she becomes an adultress because in the eyes of God to whom we all must answer, she is still legally bound to her first husband by blood covenant.
As you know the divorce rate in America is now and has been for some time above fifty percent; even in the church. Why is that? It is my belief that when people make the decision to marry they don’t have a clue what the rules are that govern a marriage covenant, and what it means to honor their word much less be committed to the act of marriage. And when hardtimes come, as they do to all of us, they are ready to bail on their partner rather than stay and find a solution to their problems. And for many people the marriage certificate is nothing more than a legal license to sleep together. So when someone comes along they consider to be sexier than their current spouse, they’re out the door not realizing their new partner is in all likelihood just as unstable as they are. But, we have seen, God takes our marriage vows very seriously and they are so much more than a written certificate giving a man and a woman the right to sleep together. When people take the marriage vows they are bound by that oath for as long as they live. They are to be faithfully committed to their spouse allowing nothing to separate the two of them. But, unfortunately that is not what we see in today’s world. It seems when financial hardtimes come many marriages fall apart because the two of them didn’t have the foresight to sit down together and make a financial plan to prosper. As you well know, it is impossible for a young couple to prosper in today’s world who spend more than they have coming in. And there has never been a time in the history of mankind when debt has been so easy to obtain and so hard to get out of. Not to mention the fact that the institution of marriage is under attack from every side by influences set on graying the rules that govern the marriage institution so they are no longer black and white. Add to that the fact most people who marry do not understand marriage is a lifelong committment that comes with a severe penality for breaking it.
Every person who has been born on this earth is accountable to God for what they do with their life. And every person will give an accounting to Him for the words they speak because our words contain creative ability, but Christians are suppose to know they are bound to the Lord by the oath of allegiance they took on the day they accepted Him as Lord. On that day, Christians swore before God and man to serve Him all the days of their life, and anything they do in this life is to be done as unto the Lord. Since a Christian is bound to God by the Covenant of their Words, they are to honor their words to all people all the time. When a Christian marries, they are bound by a marriage covenant to honor their marriage vows until death. [Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:39] If they divorce for any reason other than infidelity and remarry or enter into another marriage covenant before the death of their first covenant partner; according to the Words of Jesus in Matthew 5:32; they are committing adultery and the one who marries them commits adultery as well. They are not only breaking an oath they made to each other in the presence of God; they are breaking a covenant that carries with it a strong penality. DThrash
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